You may be in the mood for love this Valentine’s Day, but the person behind that romantic message you just received may be looking for more than just your affection.
Experts warn that this is the peak season for online romance scams, which accounted for a staggering $1.3 billion in reported losses in 2022, the most recent figures available, according to the Federal Trade Commission. Anyone could be a target.
The scams often start with what looks like an innocent message through social media or an unsolicited email or text. The scammer will introduce themselves as a woman in a war-torn country or a man working on an oil rig in the middle of the ocean. It’s never anyone accessible.
Eventually, they’ll ask for money, often playing with their mark’s heart to get them to send the cash. They might say they need it to escape a dangerous situation, or just to buy a plane ticket to visit. Once they’ve got the money, the scammer and the victim’s dollars will just disappear.
Experts say these scams are legitimate threats, given that online dating and connecting through apps is more the norm than the exception. Meanwhile, advancements in technology, including the rollout of artificial intelligence tools, have helped scammers become more aggressive and sophisticated.
The rise of cryptocurrency also hasn’t helped. By design, crypto can be largely anonymous and extremely hard to trace, which generally means that if it’s stolen, it’s gone for good.
While some scammers do ask their victims to send them crypto for the same fake reasons as they do cash, an increasing number of cybercriminals are pushing fake crypto investment schemes.
The scammers portray themselves as sophisticated investors who want to help out the person they’re targeting, promising them big returns if they invest their crypto with them. People will let their guard down because they think they’re going to be the one to get something out of it.
That all may seem discouraging, but as with most kinds of online scams, you can usually avoid falling victim if you just take a minute to think before responding to a potential scammer.
Tips for avoiding romance scams
Be skeptical of unsolicited email, text or social media messages. There’s no way to know who the people behind them actually are. If someone claims to be overseas or otherwise says they can’t meet in person, consider that a big red flag.
Stick to your dating app. Dating apps don’t like scammers because they’re bad for their reputations. So they have algorithms and other safeguards in place that are designed to spot scammy behavior. Be wary if someone wants to move your communications to an outside messaging app like WhatsApp or Signal.
Never give money to people you don’t know in real life. If someone you’ve never met in person asks for money to travel to the US to see you, to pay for medical care or to help deal with a sudden tragedy, you should view it as a scam. The same goes for the keys to your cryptocurrency wallets.
Protect your private data. Never send personal information like your Social Security number. If someone asks for naked or otherwise explicit photos, say no. The FTC says cases of “sextortion,” where cybercriminals threaten to send such photos to people’s contacts if they don’t pay, are on the rise.
Do your homework. People who use dating apps and sites are probably tech savvy enough to have a social media presence. Check it out. While you’re at it, do a reverse image search of your potential date’s photo. If it pops up in other places under a different name, steer clear.
Investment deals that seem too good to be true probably are. Don’t send your money or crypto to online friends, even if they promise big returns.
Good cybersecurity will help keep you safe. As always, set good passwords, use two-factor authentication and make sure your antivirus software, operating systems and apps are all up to date. These basic practices will go a long way toward protecting you if you click on or download something you shouldn’t.
Report crimes that do happen. If you do fall victim to a scam, report it to the FTC and the FBI’s Internet Crime Complaint Center, or IC3.
